P.K.

1. What made you decide to work with Diane? Was there an obvious advantage or anything specific that made her stand out in some way?

I wish I had a better answer for this question. However, the truth is that I simply started working with Diane because my wife did. A friend of my wife recommended Diane as an excellent Naturopath. I was looking for something in my life to help me feel healthier and also something that I could do with my wife. When Susy started with Diane, I came along as well. To be honest I was expecting a fairly scientific approach from Diane and that was something I would have been comfortable with. I was really just looking for some easy routine or process to follow in order to feel healthier. I realized quickly that I wasn’t going to get that kind of process from Diane and to be honest, there were a couple of times during the first few sessions when I decided to stop going.

2. What was life like before working with Diane?

Life was simpler. I knew exactly who I was. I knew what my short comings were (I thought) and I was ok with them. Personal growth only meant that I had to learn a new skill or fact.

3. How has working with Diane helped?

Life is much less simple than it was; however it is much deeper and more rewarding. Personal growth is tougher, but much more complex, exciting and rewarding.

4. Tell us more about the process and how you worked it through.

There was one key point in the process that really defined it for me. After a number of initial sessions with Diane where I really didn’t feel like I was getting anything out of it, I almost made the decision to stop coming. I then found myself crushed under a huge weight of failure. I’ve struggled for a long time with the feeling that I wasn’t living a healthy or connected life. I had tried a number of things to deal with this, but I had failed in all of them. I realized that this was going to be another failure. I decided that I wasn’t ok with that and I admitted to myself that I hadn’t been open to the process. I had taken a very male approach to the process, believing that emotions, feelings and questions were unimportant. I had expected to hear about a simple scientific answer to the issues at hand. I also wasn’t comfortable speaking to Diane about my feelings or issues (typical for a man) and this really prevented us from doing any real work. I decided to give the processes another try and that I would be open to the issues at hand. In the next session, I admitted to Diane that I found it hard and even a bit terrifying to open up to her about anything I was thinking or feeling. Once I did that, it became easier to open up about other issues and I really began to get value out of the sessions. Since then, the process for me has been about learning to open up to myself about the issues as well so that I can speak about them during our sessions. That has started a real path of self-reflection and growth for me that I think is still in its infancy.

5. What is it about working with Diane that you find most valuable?

I have never felt comfortable speaking to anyone (other than my wife) about emotional issues. I’ve always carried a rock hard shell around me that I didn’t even crack open for myself. Diane would be the one other person who I have felt safe in opening up with. I’m not sure why, but she’s very approachable. That is by far the most valuable element for me. Without that, this entire process would have failed long ago as I would have left.

6. What have you learned about yourself?

How long do you have to read this?
Top Points:
1) I avoid an awful lot of life (either through zoning out, day dreaming, hiding in the house, etc).
2) I am able to have deeper and more meaningful relationships with those close to me.
3) I want to be more than I am now.
4) I’ve admitted that:
a. I’m not done growing.
b. I’m not perfect.
c. It’s okay to have issues to work on.
d. I need to know myself better.
5) I don’t have enough things in life that truly excite me and make life memorable.
6) What I use to think of as “happiness” was really just a disconnected state where I simply wasn’t un-happy.
7) I no longer feel fulfilled with many parts of my life.
8) While I would feel terrible about breaking a promise to someone else, I seem to be quite content to lie to myself as well as cheat on myself.
9) There is a “short-term” Peter and a “long-term” Peter. Short-term Peter seems to win too many debates thereby hurting the “long-term” me.

7. What have been your biggest insights/light bulb moments from working with Diane?

See question 4 for the biggest moment.
Other moments include:
The time I was on the table and I could actively feel my mind trying to escape the treatment that Diane was giving. I was able to connect its behaviour to many other times in life when my mind wandered off to avoid something. I can now recognize that and I can consciously bring myself back to the issue at hand.

8. What are you working on now? What is life like now?

I tend to spend of a lot of time in a daze, letting life pass by around me. Right now I’m trying to achieve “conscious living”, where I am connected to life, the events going on and my own desires for life.

9. What is the single most important benefit that you’ve achieved from working with Diane?

At one point, I had thought, I was as good as I was going to get. I’ve now admitted that I’m not done growing and that it is ok to have things to work on.

10. What would you like to celebrate?

Good question. I don’t know. As I said, life was simpler before Diane started asking me questions.

— P.K., Mississauga, ON

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