Melanie Tinken

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1. What made you decide to work with Diane? Was there an obvious advantage or anything specific that made her stand out in some way?

Here is the interesting thing with this, I didn’t decide, the universe decided as I work for Diane and have been given the most fortunate position of learning in a working environment and also having the benefit of her care as a patient. Everything aligned at the right moment, at the most appropriate time when I was ready to see her. Essentially, my life had bottomed out; I was in a dark period where everything that I had built up before was swept away. And I never realized how much I needed Diane until we met, and I had no expectations for my healing journey with her, and so that opened up a doorway to a healing journey I had no idea I was entering. And it has created a new path for me, while also revealing to me a path I had always been on but been blocked to see.

The advantage that made her stand out for me is her non-conventional approach and her practice of unconditional love and acceptance. I love being on this journey, I love the BodyTalk, I love the flower essences, I love the homework, the journaling, the reading, the learning and then I am blessed to have the added, interesting approach of working with her and watching the patients flourish and change. I’m incredibly grateful.

2. What was life like before working with Diane?

My life was at a fork in the road. I had come only so far. I had believed I had worked things out in my life; that I was in a good place, that I had made changes, that I was in a place of understanding who I was, when I essentially lost everything that I thought had mattered; my home, my business, my relationship, my independence. It was as if the hand of God came along and swept everything off the table and then said, “You know what? You think you know who you are, but really you have no idea. And all of this…that you think matters, that you believe defines you, is not you. And so here we go. This doesn’t matter…let’s really find out what you’re made of. “
I was crushed just before I met Diane, energetically, physically, and emotionally. Life had stopped. Life was scary to me. I was caught deeply in fear. I was living in an illusion.

3. How has working with Diane helped?

Working with Diane has been an education that I cannot describe in a mere few sentences. I have been committed to the recovery of myself and simultaneously on a huge, enormous learning curve. It has been one of the most educational, inwardly rewarding times of my life; a shift toward massive self-acceptance and healing. It’s been a bit of a rollercoaster, I have had to meet less than savoury parts of myself. I’ve been able to take responsibility for what’s mine and understand deeply what is not mine. I have been re-building my self-worth and healing lifetimes of old wounds. I am beginning to understand what loving oneself truly means. And as a result I am so grateful for my life and the people who surround me in it. I am still a student, and the emotional baggage that once haunted me has become less and less meaningful to me.

4. Tell us more about the process and how you worked it through.

Well, the first thing I’ve learned is this isn’t a process for wimps. It’s challenging, physically, emotionally. But I’ve learned about my complexity as a human being. I’ve been working through a process of expansion and contraction kind of the way a plant grows from a seed, learning and unlearning; letting go of old patterns, and belief systems, re-defining myself, listening to my intuition, learning how to trust myself for the first time. Honouring myself in a loving way, in simple ways, forgiving people from my past, understanding that nothing is permanent, not even damage. When a crisis emerges, instead of panicking I realize that it’s time to address something, it’s time to articulate something that needs to be let go of, or owned, or nurtured. I try not to sweat the small stuff, it’s a long process, but rewarding. I am fascinated by all the complex layers, and patterns. I have learned to have an even better sense of humour.

5. What is it about working with Diane that you find most valuable?

Sometimes I find there is repetition in my process. And sometimes it frustrates me, I think. “God haven’t I already dealt with this already, can it be gone already.” Diane in her way of deep listening always offers a new perspective, a new way of seeing what is really going on, and a new way of combating a pattern even if it seems like it is the same pattern. She has great, patience, compassion and insight into what is going on, but more succinctly can address it and offers a way to get results to be done with what is happening. It’s remarkable.

6. What have you learned about yourself?

I have learned I am not who I thought I was. I have learned I am multi-dimensional and complex. I have learned, I have all kinds of buried powers that I have not yet attempted to mine. I have learned that there is nothing wrong with me. I have believed this for many years and it has caused all kinds of depression and difficulty. I’m not over the difficulty but little, by little there is some beautiful aspect of myself that continues and is beginning to emerge, that has always been present. I have learned lessons about what to do, how to follow through when the crisis does begin to emerge. I have learned how hard I’ve been on myself, and I am learning to be gentle, to listen to what I need and follow through, and thus also to bestow kindness on those that I love. I realize there is much more to learn, and I welcome it. I’m not frightened anymore.

7. What have been your biggest insights/light bulb moments from working with Diane?

I would have to say the biggest insight is very specific, and was right at the beginning of the work we were doing together. I can’t remember the exact context but she looked at me and she said, “You deserve love simply because you are.” It was a moment of deep transformation for me, as it was said with such conviction and unconditional love. And I realized in that moment, of course I do. This is the only truth and I realized I had been living for many, many, many years as if I didn’t deserve love, as if I was different and it started this commitment I have had to restore my health. It was a catalyst moment in my recovery. There have been thousands of moments since, but that is the one I can articulate with the most universality. It’s something that spoke to me, because it is a truth that applies to all living beings.

8. What are you working on now? What is life like now?

I would say I am working on a way to bridge my internal life to my external reality. There is still some messiness in my function, in my life organization. I’m working on matching my dailyness to my healing. I am working to giving myself the things I really need, to putting more love into my life, to taking risks, to coming back to myself. Physically, emotionally, practically. I continue to learn and research, but I am getting ready to take the small steps toward expanding my life, artistically, financially, and in relationships; to restore balance on a deep, whole-life level.

Life feels amazing. I feel much more self confidence; I feel I deserve abundance and joy. I have authentic fascination in living in my life. I feel ready to give myself restoration, physical well-being and energy. I’m excited for the future and the now. I am very grateful for the small things. I believe I was before, but now my gratitude for these small things lasts much longer.

I am working on expressing myself. I recently had the profound insight that what I had perceived as the thing that was wrong with me. I.e., that “I feel too much” is actually my gift, it’s the gift that I need to express through my creativity which manifests in creative writing, and art. I am recommitting myself to this path with a renewed sense of purpose, excitement and awe. And there is something extraordinary about transforming this negative belief into the very thing that I am here to do; which is express my deep feeling in the written word.

9. What is the single most important benefit that you’ve achieved from working with Diane?

Self-Worth.

10. What do you think life is going to be like in the future after today?

I think it’s going to continue to be an adventure, in fact I do feel that as I am at the end of my thirties and entering my forties, I am poised to be entering a place of absolute self-fulfillment. I feel more and more myself as this process continues.

11. What would you like to celebrate?

I would like to celebrate improving with age.

— Melanie Tinken, Age 39, Office Manager/Assistant to Dr. Diane Chung and Writer.

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